30
Years in mental health
27
Years of clinical practice
1M+
One million+ readers reached monthly via GoodTherapy.org, as Founder and former CEO
25 years of
providing
IFS therapy
Noah trained in IFS directly with its developer, Richard Schwartz, PhD, beginning in 2002. He went on to assist in IFS trainings, host workshops, and supervise other IFS therapists. In 2007 he founded GoodTherapy.org, one of the world’s leading mental health resources, which he led until 2018.
Some of the things
I help people with...
People come to therapy for many reasons. Some know exactly what hurts, others know that something just doesn't feel right. When something's off it can show up in how you relate to yourself, how you relate to others, how you cope with stress or pain, or in the distance between how you feel and how you'd like to feel.
WHAT I OFFER
Two ways we might work together.
Each begins with a free 15 minute consultation so we can briefly connect and see whether the fit feels right.
Individual IFS Psychotherapy
For adults who want to better understand themselves, work through painful or long standing patterns, and create deeper, more lasting change. My work is strongly informed by Internal Family Systems therapy, which helps us approach the parts of ourselves that struggle, react, protect, defend, or carry hurt and fear with curiosity and compassion, so that old patterns can begin to loosen and new ways of being can emerge.
Couples and Marriage Counseling
For couples who feel distant, conflicted, or caught in patterns they don’t know how to change. Couples therapy can help each person communicate more openly and understand one another more deeply, so that both partners feel heard, cared for, and less alone in the relationship. Along the way, couples begin to recognize the patterns they create together and learn new ways of responding that can bring more understanding, connection, and compassion into difficult moments.
The Space Where People Can Finally Slow Down
For many people, the hardest part is not knowing they need support. It is finding enough space to slow down and receive it. When life has been moving quickly for a long time, the inner world often gets pushed to the side. Stress accumulates, feelings get managed rather than listened to, and a person can begin to live at a pace that leaves very little room for genuine rest. Online therapy can help create that room. By meeting through secure video or phone, therapy becomes easier to keep, easier to return to, and easier to build into the rhythm of real life. That matters, because deep work usually depends less on intensity than on steadiness. Over time, a reliable place to pause, reflect, and understand yourself differently can begin changing the way you relate to stress, emotion, and the parts of you that have been working so hard for so long.
Many people begin therapy not because life has collapsed, but because it never seems to stop moving.
They are getting through each week. They are responding to messages, making decisions, handling responsibilities, showing up for others, and staying functional under pressure. In some cases, they have become so used to motion that it no longer occurs to them how rarely they rest inwardly. They may sleep, take breaks, or even go on vacation, yet still feel like something inside them remains braced, watchful, or hurried.
Over time, this can create a strange kind of exhaustion. Not only fatigue, but a sense that there is no real place inside life where they can fully arrive. Everything keeps asking something of them. Everything feels slightly urgent. Even moments meant to be calm can start to feel like brief pauses before the next thing begins.
This is often where therapy starts to matter. Not simply as a place to solve problems, but as a space where a person can stop performing momentum for a little while and begin noticing what has been happening beneath it.
Some people have forgotten what unhurried feels like
When life has been fast for a long time, slowing down can feel unfamiliar. A person may know how to stay productive, stay prepared, and stay outwardly composed, but not necessarily how to rest in their own experience without trying to improve it, manage it, or move past it.
Sometimes this pace comes from external demands. Work, family, finances, caregiving, long term stress, and the practical work of adult life can all contribute. Sometimes the pace also comes from inside. A person may carry an inner pressure that tells them to keep going, keep producing, keep fixing, keep anticipating. Even when nobody is asking more of them, some part of them still is.
That inner speed can become so normal that it starts to feel like identity. People may think, “This is just how I am.” But therapy can gently open the question of whether this is who they are, or whether it is what their system learned to do.
If you want a better sense of the overall approach I take, how I help people and what I help people with offer a grounded overview of the kind of work we might do together.
Slowing down is not the same as giving up
For many thoughtful adults, slowing down can feel dangerous in ways they do not immediately understand. It may seem like laziness, failure, lost momentum, or falling behind. Some people have protective patterns that equate stillness with vulnerability. Others learned early that staying vigilant was necessary, or that being useful was how they earned safety, belonging, or approval.
When those patterns are active, the nervous system may resist the very thing it most needs. A quieter pace can stir up discomfort that constant activity had been keeping at bay. Feelings that were pushed aside may begin to surface. Longings that were postponed may become harder to ignore. Questions may arise that a busy life helped keep muted.
This is one reason therapy can be so helpful. It does not force slowness as an ideal. It creates a safe enough environment to discover what becomes visible when there is finally some room. Often that room brings clarity. A person may begin to see where their energy has been going, what their inner system has been protecting against, and what has been missing beneath all the effort.
For people who are still trying to understand what good therapy should feel like, how to find the right therapist can be a helpful place to start.
The nervous system needs more than efficiency
A life can be organized and still not feel deeply supportive.
Many people know how to optimize, plan, and endure. They know how to keep things running. But the human nervous system does not heal through efficiency alone. It also needs enough safety to soften, enough honesty to feel what is there, and enough compassion to meet inner experience without immediately trying to correct it.
Therapy can become one of the few places where that process is allowed to unfold. Rather than being asked to speed up, explain yourself quickly, or tidy everything into a neat conclusion, you get to slow down enough to notice your actual experience. Over time, that kind of attention can help people reconnect with emotions, needs, creativity, grief, tenderness, and the quieter truths that are often drowned out by busyness.
If you are looking for a therapist in Everett, WA, therapy may offer more than coping tools. It may offer a place where your inner life is given enough time and space to reveal itself more honestly.
Because that kind of work is vulnerable, it also matters that therapy feels grounded and trustworthy. If that is something you think carefully about, confidentiality in therapy may help answer some of those questions.
Real change often begins in a quieter tempo
People sometimes imagine healing as a dramatic insight or breakthrough moment. Sometimes those moments happen. More often, change begins more quietly than that.
A person notices they are tired in a deeper way than they realized. They become aware of how much of their life has been shaped by urgency. They discover that when they are not racing to the next task, they can actually hear what they feel. They begin relating to themselves with more patience and less force.
That quieter tempo can be unfamiliar at first. But it can also become deeply relieving. Many people are carrying much more than they have had space to acknowledge. Therapy can become the place where they no longer have to carry it all at the same speed.
Schedule a Free Phone Consultation
If this approach resonates with you, you can learn more about Noah or schedule a complimentary phone consultation. That initial conversation can help you get a feel for whether this work seems like the right fit for where you are right now.
About Everett, Washington
Everett is a large Snohomish County city north of Seattle, and for many people there, daily life can involve a steady mix of work demands, family responsibilities, and the background pace of the broader Puget Sound region. In that kind of environment, therapy can offer a rare kind of room, not to do more, but to slow down enough to listen inwardly again.