30
Years in mental health
27
Years of clinical practice
1M+
One million+ readers reached monthly via GoodTherapy.org, as Founder and former CEO
25 years of
providing
IFS therapy
Noah trained in IFS directly with its developer, Richard Schwartz, PhD, beginning in 2002. He went on to assist in IFS trainings, host workshops, and supervise other IFS therapists. In 2007 he founded GoodTherapy.org, one of the world’s leading mental health resources, which he led until 2018.
Some of the things
I help people with...
People come to therapy for many reasons. Some know exactly what hurts, others know that something just doesn't feel right. When something's off it can show up in how you relate to yourself, how you relate to others, how you cope with stress or pain, or in the distance between how you feel and how you'd like to feel.
WHAT I OFFER
Two ways we might work together.
Each begins with a free 15 minute consultation so we can briefly connect and see whether the fit feels right.
Individual IFS Psychotherapy
For adults who want to better understand themselves, work through painful or long standing patterns, and create deeper, more lasting change. My work is strongly informed by Internal Family Systems therapy, which helps us approach the parts of ourselves that struggle, react, protect, defend, or carry hurt and fear with curiosity and compassion, so that old patterns can begin to loosen and new ways of being can emerge.
Couples and Marriage Counseling
For couples who feel distant, conflicted, or caught in patterns they don’t know how to change. Couples therapy can help each person communicate more openly and understand one another more deeply, so that both partners feel heard, cared for, and less alone in the relationship. Along the way, couples begin to recognize the patterns they create together and learn new ways of responding that can bring more understanding, connection, and compassion into difficult moments.
When a Full Life Leaves No Space to Feel
A full life is not always the same thing as a deeply felt life. Sometimes the calendar is full, the obligations are real, and the days keep moving, yet there is very little room left to notice what is happening inside or to take care of oneself emotionally. People in this position often don't think of themselves as struggling. They simply sense that they've been living at a pace that leaves no real space to feel, reflect, or recover. Online therapy can be especially helpful here because it removes some of the practical barriers that make getting guidance and help easy to postpone. Meeting by video or phone allows therapy to fit more naturally into the life you are already living, while still creating a real place to pause and turn inward. Over time, that pause can become meaningful. It allows you to hear yourself more clearly, understand the patterns beneath your stress, reconnect with parts of you that may have been pushed to the side for a long time and to feel better.
There are times when life does not feel broken, but it no longer feels spacious either.
From the outside, everything may appear intact. Work is being handled. Relationships are still there. Responsibilities are being met. The calendar is full, the household is moving, and the person inside that life may look thoughtful, capable, and composed. Yet beneath all of that, there can be a quieter truth. The pace has become so constant, and the demands so continuous, that very little inner room remains.
This is not always the kind of suffering people immediately recognize. There may be no obvious crisis. There may be no dramatic event to point to. Instead, there is a slow compression of the emotional life. A person begins to feel less present, less rested, less able to hear themselves clearly. They move through their days responsibly, but not always deeply. The machinery of life keeps working, while something more inward begins to feel harder to access.
Many people do not seek therapy because everything is falling apart. They seek therapy because they can feel that they are disappearing a little inside a life that looks fine from the outside.
In Newcastle, where many people balance family responsibilities, professional expectations, financial pressure, and the effort to keep life running smoothly, this experience can become easy to overlook. A person may appear grounded and successful while privately feeling crowded by the life they have built.
When Functioning Well Stops Feeling Like Enough
It can be disorienting to realize that competence is no longer bringing relief. For years, being organized, responsible, and reliable may have helped create stability. Those traits may still matter. But there comes a point when functioning well is no longer the same as feeling well.
A person may notice they have become increasingly efficient, yet less connected to joy. They may have trouble slowing down even when there is time. Moments that should feel nourishing pass by too quickly. There is so much to manage that the inner life begins to feel like one more thing getting postponed.
This is often when people begin to sense that the issue is not simply stress. The issue is that life has become so full of doing that there is too little room left for feeling, reflection, or genuine restoration.
The Emotional Life Can Get Quiet Without Disappearing
When people live under steady responsibility, they often become skilled at setting their feelings aside. Not because they do not have feelings, but because there has not seemed to be enough room for them. Sadness gets delayed. Fear gets minimized. Frustration gets managed privately. Longing gets pushed into the background. Over time, a person can become so accustomed to staying on track that they barely notice how emotionally muted life has become.
That does not mean the inner life is gone. It means it has grown quiet.
For some people, this also comes with a harsh or impatient relationship to themselves. If that sounds familiar, my article on Self-Criticism / Perfectionism may offer language for how inner pressure can keep a person moving while also keeping them disconnected from ease.
Many thoughtful people assume they just need more discipline, a better routine, or a more efficient way to recover. Sometimes those things help at the surface. But when the deeper problem is emotional constriction, more management is rarely the full answer.
Why Spaciousness Can Feel Hard to Claim
One of the reasons this pattern can be so difficult to change is that it often developed for understandable reasons. A person may have learned that staying organized prevented chaos. They may have learned that being dependable protected relationships. They may have discovered that competence helped them feel secure, valued, or in control.
Patterns like these deserve understanding, not shame.
This is one reason I appreciate the perspective described in the Internal Family Systems model of therapy. It offers a compassionate way to understand how protective strategies can become deeply established in a person’s life. Rather than asking, “What is wrong with me?” people can begin asking, “What has this way of functioning been trying to do for me?” That shift often opens the door to real change.
Therapy can help people relate differently to the parts of themselves that keep everything moving, while also making room for the quieter parts that may have been waiting for attention for a long time.
What Therapy Can Make Room For
A good therapy process is not simply another place to analyze problems. It can become a place to experience more room inside yourself. Room to slow down. Room to notice what has been driving your pace. Room to understand what feelings, needs, or vulnerabilities have been crowded out by a life built around constant responsibility.
That kind of work is not about becoming less capable. It is about becoming more whole.
If you want a broader sense of how I approach this process, you can read How I Help People, explore What I Help People With, or learn more About Noah. If you are in the earlier stage of considering therapy, How to Find the Right Therapist may also be useful.
A Life Can Stay Full Without Feeling So Tight
Healing does not necessarily require abandoning responsibility or stepping away from everything that matters. More often, it begins by changing your relationship to the pace, pressure, and inner expectations that have quietly taken over too much space.
A person can remain committed, thoughtful, and engaged while also becoming more emotionally present. They can learn to notice themselves sooner, listen inwardly with more honesty, and create a life that has more room for rest, reflection, and genuine feeling. That shift is often subtle at first, but it can be profound. Life may still be full, but it no longer has to feel so internally crowded.
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If your life looks fine on the outside but feels increasingly tight, emotionally thin, or lacking room to breathe, therapy may offer a meaningful place to slow down and reconnect with yourself. This work can help you understand the patterns that have kept everything moving and begin creating more space for clarity, feeling, and a steadier sense of inner life.
About Newcastle, Washington
Newcastle, Washington is an Eastside community known for its residential neighborhoods, green space, and proximity to Bellevue, Renton, and Seattle. Many people living here balance busy family life, demanding work, and the practical pressures of keeping everything organized and moving. Therapy can provide a grounded place to step out of that constant pace and reconnect with yourself more fully.