30
Years in mental health
27
Years of clinical practice
1M+
One million+ readers reached monthly via GoodTherapy.org, as Founder and former CEO
25 years of
providing
IFS therapy
Noah trained in IFS directly with its developer, Richard Schwartz, PhD, beginning in 2002. He went on to assist in IFS trainings, host workshops, and supervise other IFS therapists. In 2007 he founded GoodTherapy.org, one of the world’s leading mental health resources, which he led until 2018.
Some the of things
I help people with...
People come to therapy for many reasons. Some know exactly what hurts, others know that something just doesn't feel right. When something's off it can show up in how you relate to yourself, how you relate to others, how you cope with stress or pain, or in the distance between how you feel and how you'd like to feel.
WHAT I OFFER
Two ways we might work together.
Each begins with a free 15 minute consultation so we can briefly connect and see whether the fit feels right.
Individual IFS Psychotherapy
For adults who want to better understand themselves, work through painful or long standing patterns, and create deeper, more lasting change. My work is strongly informed by Internal Family Systems therapy, which helps us approach the parts of ourselves that struggle, react, protect, defend, or carry hurt and fear with curiosity and compassion, so that old patterns can begin to loosen and new ways of being can emerge.
Couples and Marriage Counseling
For couples who feel distant, conflicted, or caught in patterns they don’t know how to change. Couples therapy can help each person communicate more openly and understand one another more deeply, so that both partners feel heard, cared for, and less alone in the relationship. Along the way, couples begin to recognize the patterns they create together and learn new ways of responding that can bring more understanding, connection, and compassion into difficult moments.
When a Slower Life Is Hard to Achieve
A slower outer life does not always guarantee inner peace. People can live in beautiful surroundings, care deeply about what matters, and still feel unsettled, incomplete, and unhappy inwardly. Sometimes the pressure isn't a result of current circumstances. It's a result of the past and long held habits, coping skills, and emotional protection. Online therapy helps people begin working with those patterns in a practical and grounded way. Meeting by video or phone makes it easier to bring therapy into one's life without the extra disruption of travel, and many people find it more comfortable to talk from home or another private space where they can relax into the process. Therapy can help create an inner experience that external changes alone often don't provide.
There are people whose lives contain many of the things they once thought would help them feel more settled. They may have built a home they care about, created a family life that matters to them, or chosen surroundings that feel quieter and more beautiful than the places they once lived. From the outside, it may seem as though they have moved closer to the kind of life that should bring calm. And yet inwardly, something still feels restless.
The schedule remains full. The mind keeps moving. The body never quite softens. Even moments that should feel peaceful can pass by without fully landing.
This can be surprisingly painful, because the person is not only tired. They are confused. They may wonder why the outer life they worked so hard to create does not translate into the inner steadiness they hoped for. They may begin to feel guilty for not appreciating things more. They may assume they should be doing better than they are.
But emotional strain is not always caused by having the wrong life. Sometimes it comes from carrying the right life in a way that leaves too little room to truly inhabit it.
In Snoqualmie, where many people are drawn to natural beauty, family life, and some sense of distance from the pace of denser urban living, this tension can be especially subtle. A person may sincerely value the life they have built and still feel that something in them has not caught up to the peace they were hoping to find.
When the Outer Life Changes Faster Than the Inner One
One of the more difficult truths about stress is that changing your surroundings does not automatically change the pace of your inner world. A person can move closer to beauty, simplicity, or spaciousness and still bring the same internal urgency with them. The habits of pressure, vigilance, self-demand, and emotional postponement do not disappear simply because life looks calmer from the outside.
This is often why people feel disappointed in themselves. They think, “Why am I still tense?” or “Why am I not enjoying this more?” But these questions can miss something important. Inner strain is often patterned. It develops over years. It becomes woven into the nervous system, into identity, and into the protective ways a person has learned to move through life.
If those patterns have helped someone stay responsible, effective, and emotionally contained, they may continue long after they have stopped being necessary.
The Longing for Peace Can Become Its Own Pressure
Sometimes the desire for a more grounded life quietly turns into one more thing a person feels they are failing to achieve.
They may tell themselves they should be more present, more grateful, or more able to slow down. They may notice that even their efforts to rest carry a subtle demand inside them. Relax more. Be calmer. Appreciate this. Stop being so tense. The longing for peace begins to sound like another internal command.
For many people, this is closely tied to a harsh or impatient relationship with themselves. If that feels familiar, my article on Self-Criticism / Perfectionism may help name the way internal pressure can quietly shape emotional life, even in environments that appear calm on the surface.
What makes this especially hard is that the person may not
look distressed to others. They may appear steady, thoughtful, and high functioning. The struggle often lives in how difficult it has become to actually arrive inside their own life.
Why the Nervous System Does Not Slow Down on Command
A person cannot simply instruct themselves into feeling safe, open, or at ease. These states are not produced by willpower alone.
This is one reason I appreciate the perspective described in the Internal Family Systems model of therapy. It offers a compassionate way to understand why parts of us stay alert, driven, or emotionally guarded even when another part longs for calm. These patterns are often protective. They developed for reasons. They may have helped us get through demanding seasons, unstable environments, or long periods of carrying too much.
When those protective habits are treated with understanding rather than frustration, something important begins to shift. A person can stop trying to force themselves into relaxation and start becoming curious about what inside them has remained so braced for so long.
That change in stance often matters more than people expect. Real peace usually grows through relationship with ourselves, not through self-pressure.
What Therapy Can Help You Reclaim
Therapy can offer a place where the inner pace begins to become more visible. Not a place to perform calm, but a place to understand what has made calm so difficult to reach.
A thoughtful therapy process can help you notice the parts of yourself that keep rushing, scanning ahead, staying organized, or holding emotion at a distance. It can also help you reconnect with the parts that long for rest, softness, contact, and a more honest way of living. If you want a broader sense of my approach, you can read How I Help People, explore What I Help People With, or get a practical sense of beginning in How to Find the Right Therapist.
This work is not about becoming passive or giving up your responsibilities. It is about no longer living as though pressure is the only way to stay intact.
Letting Life Land More Fully
Sometimes healing begins with something very simple. A person starts noticing that they do not only want a manageable life. They want a life they can actually feel.
They want moments to register. They want beauty to reach them. They want rest to be more than a short interruption between tasks. They want to feel less internally chased by their own mind. That desire is not indulgent. It is deeply human.
Therapy can support that movement. It can help you understand why your system has stayed so activated, why peace has felt harder to receive than you expected, and how to build a more grounded relationship with yourself over time. The goal is not perfection. It is greater contact with your own life, your own feelings, and your own capacity to be here.
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If you have created a life that looks good from the outside but still feels hard to fully settle into, therapy may offer a meaningful place to slow down and understand what is keeping peace just out of reach. This work can help you reconnect with yourself and begin living with more presence, steadiness, and emotional room to breathe.
About Snoqualmie, Washington
Snoqualmie, Washington is known for its scenic surroundings, Historic Downtown Snoqualmie, Snoqualmie Ridge, community events, and Snoqualmie Falls, which the city describes as a major natural and cultural landmark. It offers a setting that many people experience as beautiful, family oriented, and connected to outdoor life.